Growing Pains
Among a growing list of disturbing instances of recent hate speech, this week brought the revelation that Kirk Cameron of Growing Pains fame believes that homosexuality is “unnatural.” The actor had this to say to Piers Morgan on CNN.
He also went on to explain that God defined marriage as one man and one woman in the Garden of Eden and that he wouldn’t be happy if one of his children came out to him as gay. Almost instantly he was excoriated on Twitter by a wide variety of (former) fans, comedians, and gay rights advocates, as well as the gay community itself. Many of the responses were witty and clever. Many of them were also just as ignorant and mean spirited as Cameron’s inciting remarks. The actor turned Christian advocate defended his stance on Fox & Friends as Biblical, stating he didn’t see the reason for such vitriol over his commonly held Christian belief.
For most of us this is just one more shot fired in an ugly Republican election cycle that has seen everything from Rick Santorum’s preacher advocating a Christian Theocracy in his hate-filled rant introducing the candidate to Rush Limbaugh viciously attacking Sandra Fluke for testifying in defense of woman’s reproductive rights before Congress.
Still I don’t quite understand the reason for the nasty backlash against people who express diverging views from our own, even the unsavory ones. You see, the older I get the less I feel the need to defend my truth to others. I don’t expect everyone to see things the way I do any more than I expect them to respond with civility or even reason for that matter. Put simply, your beliefs in no way diminish mine unless I allow them to, and in the end only I chose how to feel and react to what you say and do.
For example, Newt Gingrich doesn’t believe in equality for gays and lesbians. I disagree. He believes we should found a colony on the moon. I disagree with that as well. He cheated on his wife for six years then asked her for an open marriage after she was diagnosed with M.S. I strongly disagree with his choices and feel sorry for the suffering they have caused him and others. I don’t need to comment further on any of these things. I think they speak for themselves.
That isn’t to suggest that I believe we should stand by silently while others rights and dignities are stripped from them. Or that I believe in condoning irresponsible statements made by politicians, clergy members, and radical radio show hosts. Instead I think we can show our values by living them, putting our efforts towards creating the kind of world we want to live in rather than focusing our energies towards what we do not want and creating false enemies in the process. All beings have shown us incredible kindness in previous lifetimes, even if we cannot recall them at this present moment. Buddha tells us that they have all been our kind mothers in the past. All people have goodness and Budhha nature in them, and are capable of extraordinary acts of virtue and love – even war criminals like Kony and George W. Bush.
Being trapped in samsara means that all of us have held wrong views at some point in our lives. In fact many of us still do on a number of issues. We are all still learning and growing. If we were perfect enlightened beings already, none of us would be here. We’d be living in a pure land.
That’s why when someone expresses a hateful opinion in the name of their religion or a political party we should understand they are suffering from delusions, the same ones that plague us all. We should take the opportunity presented to us to view them with all the love and compassion at our disposal. Hatred and intolerance bring greater suffering to those who wield them than those against whom they are used as a weapon, heaping negative karma and unhappiness on them in this and countless future lives. At the same time, by patiently enduring the suffering of our own ripening karma we can use it to transform and purify both ourselves and our world.
As Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. once told us, “only love can conquer hate.”
If we are confident in our beliefs we have no reason to get upset when someone challenges them. Instead we should be grateful to have the chance to show our wisdom and compassion. Seen this way we owe these misguided souls a great debt of gratitude for without them we would have no way to perfect our spiritual practice. They are our kind teachers, helping us reach the fulfillment of this human life by attaining enlightenment for the benefit of others.
So this blogging experiment isn’t turning out how I thought it would so far. That’s okay. Part of what I hoped to us it for was to keep myself writing, and that hasn’t been a problem. Not at all.
So last week the interGoogles were rocked to their very foundations, not by 4Chan or 9gag or even the notoriously dangerous hive mind that is Reddit. Donavon Strain, a “famous blogger” stepped up (sans Guy Fawkes mask) to claim his victory via painstakingly researched empirical data, pinpointing the actual date of rapper Ice Cube’s “Good Day” as January 20, 1992. Quick side note – the phrase “famous blogger” sounds like an oxymoron to me. It’s like back when Tila Tequila was “Myspace Famous” which turned out really well for her and, well ultimately, for all of us. Last we saw of tiny Tila she was flashing Juggalo’s at a concert and appearing in a “sex tape” her own publicist more than likely gave Steve Hirsch like a bad case of herpes. Just an aside – try not to picture it. Almost immediately we were treated to a cynical retort from one lesser known but equally scholarly Mike B. of Lahatiel, who proves almost without a doubt that said day of goodness was actually November 30, 1988. You can read all about his thought provoking alternate theory in
Starbucks announced the unthinkable today, that they would be bringing coffee to India, a land notoriously known to prefer tea as their addictive beverage of choice. That’s right, the soul crushing Seattle upstart turned unstoppable international corporation and local coffee shop assassin has gone all E. M. Forster on us. Allow us to break it down for you. That means the next guy to get your job after they close down the call center you moonlight in and ship those jobs overseas is going finally get that Venti Soy Latte he so desperately needs to make it through his 3rd full time job by Vishnu!
By now chances are pretty good that you are aware that this year the world lost Steve Jobs, even if you are living in a cave. It’s pretty hard not to notice the near hysterical encomia being leveled at the golden tech God who brought us an overpriced version of the MP3 player, the portable laptop, and the smart phone – transforming many aspects of life as we know it in the modern world including film, television, and other media-based arts. I would say I am most grateful not for my iPod but for Jobs’ support of Pixar during its early days. I can’t imagine a world without Monsters Inc.
For those who might be wondering (all 4 of you currently reading) I have been sick, which is why I haven’t made a great effort to update the blog. Yes illness has been the culprit behind my lack of follow through with daily updates, far more than the devastating impact of self-censorship, although I’ve consulted with my closest friend Mr. Fuss about the latter in great detail as well.
So, after nearly five years, it was time to do something useful with this site. In that time I have fallen in love with Word Press and thought it was the best thing for the site really. A lot of people talk about using their blog to ensure that they write every day, but I’ve been doing that for so long now that it really isn’t an issue. While the quality of what comes out may be questioned, the creative soup always flows. If you know me then you know I don’t understand or believe in writer’s block. If I ever get stuck on one piece of writing I either push through or switch to something else and come back when the spark hits again. Aspiring writers make a note of that. It’s great advice. Always be writing in your head. For me that habit became ingrained when I used to blog for Gawker on their unruly and unforgiving CMS. I’ve actually been working exclusively in Word Press now for the entirety of this year.